You shall be free to let go of your unhappiness the moment you recognize it as unintelligence. Negativity is not intelligent.
Within life we all have our relationships. Whether that be a lover, a friend or a family member. We all have our ups and downs in our relationships without ups and downs we would not have a relationship. Let’s talk about romantic relationships. Two of the most important things within a relationship is communication and awareness. Communication “Words” can bring great happiness, they can also bring great sorrow. We have all had our moments within relationships where we say things we don’t mean, things that hurt the one we love, we sometimes intentionally say things that we know will upset our partners and hurt them why do we do this? We may even regret doing so afterwards, where is the control within our relationships? The control starts with awareness. To have awareness of oneself, of one’s surroundings and of one’s partner is crucial. Awareness is a stepping stone of a happy and healthy relationship.
There will be times of great love and laughter, when we are so happy, when joy and positive energy is flowing, when we are aware of what we have, when we appreciate what we have. There will be times that test us, when we feel frustrated with our partners, when something said by our significant other is is heard as something completely different to what we intended Misinterpretation. Misinterpretation is a powerful word. It is what often times creates the great test within our relationships. It is natural to misinterpret something said, we all make this mistake in our relationships. However we do have the option of control, and control comes from awareness. To be aware in conversation in communication is like making a conscious decisionto be intelligent. Awareness allows us to think before we speak, to think about what we say, to express something in a way that is clear, that is not hurtful, but that allows a message to be heard. To understand is key, to see our partners understanding is proof that our awareness is on point, and that theirs is too. As awareness goes both ways.
All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress worry these are all forms of fear they are caused by too much future thought and not enough presence.Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non forgiveness are caused by too much past and not enough presence. To have presence and be more present within one’s life is to have awareness.
Again, the importance of awareness really does equate to great undeniable contentment in life. And that word we all strive to have in life or at least all want Happiness.
There were some great words spoken by a spiritual leader/author Eckhart Tolle “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but the thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral,It is as it is.” If you are stuck within a relationship that has little awareness, arguments, unhappiness, you feel you are not being understood, you are always misinterpreting each other, then there is a way out it is firstly becoming aware of yourself, your surroundings and most importantly your significant other, Once aware talk to your partner about how you feel be honest be direct and tell them what you seek, the good things they make you feel, the things you want to feel, be kind, be open, be positive, ask them if they could become a little more aware and think about things before they are said, perhaps if you both feel something could be misinterpreted don’t say it, instead think about a way you could show it or say it in a way that will be understood. Kindness is an important virtue we must learn to use more in life, it is something we all have yettend to lack in our relationships,Kindness. Be Kind even in moments of great unintelligence (Negativity) a little kindness will always go a long way.
There is always a way out of negative relationship, there is always a chance for happiness no matter how far into the deep sea you have drifted, there is always hope, and that hope begins within you your conscious decision for change,and that shall always begin with your awareness. Relationships do not cause pain and unhappiness, they bring the pain and unhappiness out that is already within you, learn control, learn balance, learn awareness, acceptance and understanding and you will learn what it is like to lead a life of great success and joy.