By Annelize: Do you remember picking the leaves of the daisy flower just to know if he loves you… or not? Well, some or most relationships have periods of these where you are earnestly looking for a daisy to pick to make sure he still loves you…
Every relationship has great days, awesome days, fun days, boring days, sad days. alone days, mad days, anger days… that is part of being human and living here on this planet. I also know some relationships enter our lives for a short time, others enter our lives for our whole lifetime, others come and go. Unfortunately, we often don’t know what the relationship will entail especially if it is not your family. Sometimes we really hope it lasts a lifetime but then life happens, and it does not.
Sometimes we want it to end sooner, but then it doesn’t. We must learn how to go with what life offers us now, this moment. If we are having a great time in our relationship savor it, enjoy it and make the most of it. If we are having a low in our relationship, learn from it and step out stronger. We have been trained by society that there are rules to what is good and bad, but if we can start to see everything happening to us, as for our utmost well-being, our outlook on life will change.
If we can see a difficult period as a situation to learn from, to train ourselves, to expand our limits, we will become greater in ourselves and our development. We don’t want to grow this way, we don’t want pain to grow us, because it hurts, and hurting does not feel good. But looking back we will see how these hurtful events changed us, molded us to become stronger, or more acceptable or lovable. Pain hurts, but it changes us, and if we allow it, it will be for our good!
Sometimes we struggle to like each other, sometimes the other person reminds us how we were before, or even how we treat other people in our lives. Nothing happens without a reason, we can either choose to let it shape and form us, or we can choose that it destroys us and our relationship.
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
Today I challenge you, there is more love in us than we are aware of, there will be some low times in every relationship, but instead of just falling apart, running away or leaving, allow the situation to teach you, mold you, form you to become the best You, you can ever be!
Love and Light,